Japanese weddings are a beautiful concoction of modernity and traditionalism. When you attend them, you would experience more than you would ordinarily expect from a wedding. Moreover, the distinct cultural foundations of Japan may render many people unprepared, and hence, when you attend a Japanese wedding, make sure you know what you are up for.
In this article, we will talk about 4 tips that help a great while attending a Japanese wedding. It is important you observe each one of them sincerely to avoid getting embarrassed. So, with this note, let us begin.
1. Feel Honoured
Yes, it is a very valuable tip if you wish to enjoy Japanese wedding wholesomely. In Japan, weddings are a quiet affair which involves only family and closest friends of the bride and the bridegroom. If you get an invitation, you should not slip it in a drawer and forget about it until the wedding day; instead, you should genuinely consider the importance of the same and feel honoured for having being invited.
2. What To Wear?
Well, it is quite important to take due caution of what you wear to a Japanese wedding. It is a formal event and one should dress appropriately as per the occasion. However, there are a few No’s which must be observed.
For starters, do not choose white for your dress because that is reserved for the wedding couple. Apart from that, you should not overdress, wear revealing clothes such as short skirts, wear excessive jewellery and heavy colours.
3. The Gift
We would ask you to not delve too much into buying gifts and instead follow the long-lasting Japanese tradition called goshugi which means money gift. Yes, we are asking you to give money gift instead to the couple.
The concept of goshugi is based on the idea that the newlyweds have spent a lot on their wedding and would need money to pay off their bills. Weddings in Japan are generally expensive so this age-old concept does make sense.
There is one rule to follow when you give money gift: you put the money in a goshugi-bukuro which is basically an envelope easily recognisable by its flashy designs. However, remember not to buy the black and white ones, as they are meant for funeral purposes.
After having purchased the envelope, you need to carefully write down on its front page your name. You must write down the address andthe amount of cash inside the envelope. When at the wedding, hand over the envelope to the people at the reception with a polite greeting.
4. Expectations From The Wedding
Japanese weddings are divided into two events namely the wedding ceremony or kekkonshikiand the wedding party or hiroen. These two events are followed by an after-party or nijikai that is usually reserved for close friends and colleagues.
The wedding is not a gala; so if you were thinking of shaking a leg, we are sorry. Though you may not be dancing, you will be a part of a series of speeches which are delivered by the guests, usually by the two friends each of the bride and the groom, the bride’s boss and the groom’s boss.
You can expect to see a wedding video which runs throughout the ceremony and is basically amontage of the pictures and videos of the couple together. Following the montage, there will be athanksgiving video for those attending the wedding. See, we told you to feel honoured for havig being invited!