The thing about a wedding is that this is the time when everyone wants to display their cultures and traditions, even if they had not really been interested in them before.
When it is a multicultural wedding, then it can be even better (or worse, as applicable), with both the bride’s side and the groom’s side wanting to showcase their own traditions, which is the way it has to be done, rather than trying to give more importance and prominence to one tradition over the other.
One must of course learn to respect all the traditions, and with couples today marrying across cultures, religions, and even nations, today’s weddings are indeed a mix of cultures, and can be multi racial, and even multi national.
How do you plan such weddings?
Here are some tips for you:
- Conduct a proper research into the wedding customs of each side involved. Remember that even if the young couple isn’t all that convinced about following traditions, there may be elderly people who would want to, and you have to take this into account.
- Start from scratch. What must the wedding invitation be like? Must it reflect any specific tradition and use symbols associated with them, or must it be neutral?
- Now what about the wedding dress that the bride and groom must wear? It is a wise idea to allow one culture to predominate, so that there may be no confusion, and the bride or groom can follow that culture.
- The decorations too can follow the same principle, although the other side too would like their culture to be revealed at the wedding hall.
- If there is too much of a difference between the two cultures, then it is a good idea to hold two different ceremonies, one for the groom’s side and one for the bride’s.
- Don’t forget that it is indeed possible to be creative, and blend the two cultures to make a harmonious whole. Although this may involve all the family members, the effort may be worth it at the end. I once attended a wedding where the couple dressed in the tradition of one culture, while the close family members dressed in the tradition of the other culture. This way, both the sides did not feel left out.
- Food is another area where you can use your creativity. The wedding feast could be a buffet, and both the cultures could be consulted before the menu is planned and decided upon. It is only when one side of the family does not eat non-vegetarian food that a problem may arise, but this too could be surmounted by serving only vegetarian, and holding a separate non-vegetarian buffet for the people of the other side.
Hosting and planning a multicultural wedding may not be simple, but in today’s world, it is imperative that one learns to adjust to another culture, with the young people of the family choosing partners across traditional boundaries.